Who Do You Hang Out With?

I was out with some friends a couple of days ago.

As a #RELATOR, I enjoy these opportunities to deepen existing relationships and friendships. I am energized with the company of good friends — catching up with each other’s lives, discussing new ideas / plans and, of course, sometimes discussing some challenges we were facing.

I was so pumped up and inspired after the conversations, that it was difficult for me to sleep. I just could not wait for the next day to get started.

Contrast this to a similar situation I was in a few months ago.

Same setup, different set of friends. Again, as a #RELATOR, I was supposed to be energized after that meet-up. Instead, I felt drained afterwards.


Simply because, rather than deep, meaningful conversations relationships, it ended up as a gripe session. It was not even the funny type of gripe sessions where people downplay the challenges by sharing funny anecdotes. It was all the hardships each one was going through from #TooBusyAtWork to #MyBossSucks to #Traffic to #AllTheProblemsInTheWorld.

Positive_negativeThis got me asking…

  • I seriously felt drained after that second story, but everyone else seemed to have found the session de-stressing. What was I missing?
  • Both groups actually had similar challenges, except for #AllTheProblemsInTheWorld. Why was the narrative so contrasting?

So, this got me thinking some more…

  • The second group were mid-level managers and subject matter experts so I guess it makes sense for them to have all those challenges. However,
  • The first group were Business Owners, C-Level Executives, and High-Level Directors. Shouldn’t they have more challenges and more excuses to be stressed and gripe?

This brings me to my final set of questions…

  • Is the narrative different because of their different backgrounds?
  • Or is their backgrounds different because of the different narratives?
  • And lastly, who would you prefer to hang out with?



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Ryan Salvanera is the Founder of Coach Rye and Co-Founder of StrengthsCoach.PH. Ryan is a Gallup Certified StrengthsFinder Coach who specializes in helping individuals maximize their unique powers, taking them from good to great to awesome! He also works with different organizations to develop and embed a strengths-based organization culture. Ryan’s top five talent themes are: Relater, Arranger, Learner, Maximizer and Individualization.


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Ryan Salvanera is an Executive Coach who helps teams and individuals maximize their unique powers, taking them from good to great to AWESOME! Ryan is the Founder of Coach Rye and a Co-Founder of Wissen Solomon and StrengthsCoach.PH.

Ryan’s top five talent themes are:
Relator, Arranger, Learner, Maximizer and Individualization.

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