Pwede na ba ‘yung “Pwede na”? loosely translates to:
Is “Good Enough” Good Enough?
This was the title of the forum organized by a Family Psychology class at Miriam College. It was actually a private forum but, luckily for me, the class’ teacher, Ichel, was a good friend of mine so I got a free pass.
I was a bit disappointed though coz my good friend, Dominic, was apparently not a speaker but was just there to support his wife, Mitzi. It was all good though since I heard a lot of awesome insights from all the guest speakers.
Ichel: I will be waiting for Dominic to lead the “from a man’s perspective” version of this. =)
Here are some of the points / ideas that the panelists shared.
- On how to know that he is The One
- The guy respected her and was sensitive to her needs
- Learned from previous failed relationships
- Important to be friends first. Seems idealistic, but it is possible
- Know the person before you fall in love, i.e. know him before you get blinded with infatuation
- Go through the Discovery Weekend test
- I’m proud to say the wifey and I attended this retreat and passed =)
- On dating without marriage in mind
- Go ahead. You are still young. Explore.
- Think of it as networking
- Dating is a way to find yourself
- One of the panelists mentioned using Tinder
- I’ve been procrastinating on writing about the app, but this inspired me to write one soon
- On giving space or healing together after a fight
- Most said it was good to give space
- One did say that it depends on the individuals involved
- On separated parents and how it affected her perception on relationships
- Parents are not perfect. Hold on to that time they had a great relationship.
- Prepare for the scenarios that led to their separation. Read books. Look for a role mode couple
Final Advise From The Panelists
- Get to know yourself. Build yourself. The “You complete me…” line is B.S.
- Don’t be afraid to get your heart broken. Heart Broken=> Heart Breaks Open. Makes more room.
- Choose someone you can choose everything… and be that person they will choose
- Cum Laude before Cum Lande.
Don’t wait for the best person. Be the best person.
It was certainly a lesson-filled afternoon for the young ladies at Miriam College. How about you? Do you have any tips / advice you want to share?
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Relator, Arranger, Learner, Maximizer and Individualization.
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