There have been times in the past, too many if you ask me, that I have second guessed myself from talking about my coaching practice. In fact, when asked about it, I tend to get fidgety and unsure of myself.
I have been doing this for years… more than half my life actually.
I noticed this gift back in High School. It was never easy for me to make the first connection but, once I did, it was natural for me to deepen the conversations* and, consequentially, my friendships. In these conversations, my friends either use me as a mere sounding board or, sometimes, request my advice. Yes, strictly speaking, that was not coaching but the numerous insights I gained from those conversations definitely led me towards it.
Apart from these conversations, I also started coaching my house’s (yes, we were like Hogwarts) ladies’ basketball team. The experience helped me build my leadership and influencing skills.**
Both necessary in coaching.
Not So Young Coach
Through the years, the trend continued.
– I continue to counsel friends (and even acquaintances)
– I am coaching basketball teams… in different leagues.
Making It Official
Finally, a few years ago, I joined The OneCore, a global organization that supports people in making Better Life Decisions. I am now a certified facilitator for them and is journeying towards my ICF (International Coach Federation) certification.
So why the hesitation still?
I thought about this some more and realized that, since I have not done a lot of 1-on-1 coaching at OneCore, most of the feedback I’ve received about my coaching have come from friends. This makes me question myself:
- Am I really qualified?
- They are probably just being nice.
- Do I have enough experience?
- But I am not certified.
But Jeff is right. Just like how writers must be true to themselves and risk by putting their work out there, I too must do the same for coaching.
Here’s an excerpt from the book which I have personalized:
I found my dream not by searching for it, but by submitting to what I had always hoped was true: I was, in fact, a coach. All I had to do was coach.
Anyone can do this. All it requires is a simple, scary solution: Believe you already are what you want to be. And then start acting like it.
Ryan’s top five talent themes are:
Relator, Arranger, Learner, Maximizer and Individualization.
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