The Day You Find Out Why

Focus on Self

In my previous entry, I talked about focusing on and knowing ourselves.

I realize now that this was a pretty vague suggestion so here are some things that are a little more concrete:

1) Make Time For Me Time!

Notice that I did not say FIND some ME time. If you wait until you find time, you will end up waiting for a long time.

“I have all these chores” — Ok. They’ll still be there when you get back, don’t worry.
“What about my kids” — Have your husband / wife have a date with them so they can bond.
“I’m a single parent” — Get their grandparent’s to take them out to bond. Hire a baby sitter.

You can come up with all the excuses in the world, it all boils down to how much you really want it. It doesn’t have to be extravagant. A quick walk in the park. An hour or so at your favourite neighbourhood cafe. A quiet moment in the wee hours of the morning before the rush.

Make Time For Me Time

ME time allows you to breathe and recuperate from the daily grind. It clears your mind and allows you to see what matters to you.

There are times that you will realize that the small things that has started to become a burden is actually aligned to what you want.

Waking up at 5am daily to cook. You do it because you love your kids

The dreaded 8 to 5. You do it because you love your family.

Of course, there will also be times that you will realize the opposite, and stop all those unnecessary things not aligned to what you want.

2) Take a Test… About Yourself

Yes, you read that right. Take a test, a self assessment, to know yourself better.

A test? Yes, it sounds stressful but, trust me, it’s worth it. You will be amazed at the things you will discover / re-discover about yourself.

What’s amazing for me is how I end up nodding while reading the results of these assessments. I always knew about these behaviours and tendencies, but these assessments helped me name them. (Read: Name It, Claim It, Aim It!)

There are a lot of assessments out there but these two are what I use most.

The Five Love Languages


  • From The Five Love Languages: The 5 Love Languages® profile will give you a thorough analysis of your emotional communication preference. It will single out your primary love language, what it means, and how you can use it to connect with your loved one with intimacy and fulfillment.
  • I took this assessment with the wifey a few years back. One of our goals this year is to be more mindful of each other’s love language.
  • This is not exclusively for couples. We’ve used this tool in a workshop to help people relate with their colleagues.

StrengthsFinder 2.0

StrengthsFinder 2.0

  • From Gallup: The Clifton StrengthsFinder is a Web-based assessment of normal personality from the perspective of Positive Psychology. It is the first instrument of this type developed expressly for the Internet. Over a secure connection, the Clifton StrengthsFinder presents 177 items to you.
  • To take the assessment, visit the Gallup Strengths Center.
  • Disclaimer: I am a StrengthsFinder enthusiast and I use this tool to help mycoachees. In fact, I’ve written quite a few entries on this and will definitely be writing more:

Have An Awesome 2015!

I hope that these simple tips will help you have a great year ahead.

“The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why.”

— Mark Twain

The Day You Find Out Your True Self



If this helped you,  please do share it with friends who need some focus in their lives. Cheers!



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Ryan Salvanera is an Executive Coach who helps teams and individuals maximize their unique powers, taking them from good to great to AWESOME! Ryan is the Founder of Coach Rye and a Co-Founder of Wissen Solomon and StrengthsCoach.PH.

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