Author’s Note: I wrote this before mom’s passing but never got to post it… so I’m pretty some of my thoughts may have changed.
I read this article thru a friend on FB.
According to the author, Shauna Niequist, here are the 11 things you need to know to be a real adult
1. You Have Time to Find a Job You Love
2. Get Out of Debt and Stay Out of Debt
3. Don’t Rush Dating and Marriage
4. Give Your Best to Friends and Family
5. Get Some Counseling
6. Seek Out a Mentor
7. Be a Part of a Church
8. Find a Rhythm for Spiritual Disciplines
10. Feed Yourself and the People You Love
11. Don’t Get Stuck
— See full article here
In one of my “me” moments, I decided to look closely at each one and assess where I am at the moment. Yes, I am way over 25(ish) but I guess there’s no harm in continually learning and improving yourself.
You Have Time to Find a Job You Love
First one is already a tough one for me. I do love what I am doing… I love working with technology and being in software testing allows me to do this. Yet, I also enjoy coaching. And although I get to be involved in coaching and mentoring (in my role as lead and manager), sometimes I wonder if I will ever go full-time with that and leave the IT industry for good.
Get Out of Debt and Stay Out of Debt
When I first got out of Uni, a bank gave me a pre-approved credit card… and, boy, I was in serious financial trouble right away. I kept paying the minimum and soon the finance charges started piling up. Luckily for me, I was able to borrow money from my family and was able to pay off the debt without interest.
I cut out that credit card but have since gotten a couple again. This time though, I’ve been smart enough to always pay the full amount so I have been able to keep away from finance charges. I hope I get to keep it that way.
Don’t Rush Dating and Marriage
I probably tried to rush it when I was younger… but it was a good thing that circumstances did not allow it. I’m happy how it all played out.
Give Your Best to Friends and Family
I’ve always been this way to my friends, which got me into trouble with my family.
However, I’d like to believe that I have made strides to give more of me to my family in the recent years. First of all, my friendship with my brother is something that is precious to me… mainly because a couple of years back, I could not imagine such a thing ever happening. Despite the distance, I also feel that my relationship with my sisters are pretty solid. My mom is great but, of course, there are those moments that I act like the spoiled youngest kid that I am. 🙂
Get Some Counseling
Back when I was still active in Youth For Christ and Singles For Christ, this was a regular thing. I had some leaders whom I had regular one-on-one sessions with to discuss anything under the sun. I must say that those sessions were helpful in keeping me on track and in lifting me up during trying time. Unfortunately, I am no longer active in the community so I no longer receive regular counseling.
That’s why I really enjoyed my life coaching workshop with Coach Pia. She did not only help prepare me into coaching, she also help coach and counsel me as well. I could definitely use more of this.
Seek Out a Mentor
Be a Part of a Church
I need to go back. I know I do.
To this day, I still use the same excuse I’ve had for years about how I felt betrayed by a former leader of mine… and how this has kept me from being involved in a community or a church.
However, although I am a man of faith, I respect others who do not believe in religion. (Note: I do not necessarily agree with them but I respect their choice) In that respect, I believe that one just needs to believe in a higher order… of something greater than ourselves.
Find a Rhythm for Spiritual Disciplines
Although I still try to stick to my weekly sweeping sessions, I think it’s high time I go back to have a daily prayer time as the article suggested. This is something I actually endorsed back when I was a youth leader but have since found hard to keep up.
It was a great feeling when my brother and I (together with his friends) volunteered to help out in a relief center after Ondoy. Unfortunately, I have not been as active since. I always talk about wanting to sign up as a volunteer with the Philippine Red Cross, but have never gotten around to doing it.
Feed Yourself and the People You Love
I am only good with eating… never feeding.
The author mentioned “eggs, soup, a fantastic sandwich or burger, guacamole and some killer cookie” which is probably tailor-made for his culture so I’ll say “eggs, soup, sandwich and adobo” would be good for Filipinos. Two out of four is pretty decent. I tried cooking adobo once with a friend, Milo Timbol, but that did not turn out so well… I’ll give it a try again someday. As for soup, I’ve only been preparing instant noodles… I’m going to try making Chicken Sopas next time.
Don’t Get Stuck
I guess the author is really talking about continuously learning and improving… which is something I’ve been trying to do. I must say, this exercise of commenting on the article allowed me to come up with a list of to-dos that I need to act on so that I will not be stuck.
I hope these allow me to continually move forward…
Ryan’s top five talent themes are:
Relator, Arranger, Learner, Maximizer and Individualization.
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